Luyện nói tiếng Anh bằng Shadowing qua video: How our expectations shape what we see, hear, and feel

It can certainly feel like emotions happen to you, that they bubble up and that they cause you to do and say things.

But that experience is an illusion that the brain creates.

Not everybody has as much control as they might like, but everybody has a little more control than they think they do.

When you're experiencing emotion or you're in an emotional state, what your brain is doing is telling itself a story about

what is going on inside your body in relation to what's happening in the world.

Your brain is always regulating your body.

Your body is always sending sensory information back to your brain.

And your brain isn't wired in a way for you to experience those sensory changes specifically.

Instead, what you experience is a summary.

And that's where those simple feelings come from.

If you understand that every experience you have now becomes part of your brain's ability to predict,

then you realize that the best way to change your past is to change your present.

Just in the same way that you would exercise to make yourself healthier,

you can invest energy to cultivate different experiences for yourself.

The fact that your brain is using your past experience to predict what you're going to see and hear and feel

means that you are an architect of your experience.

And that doesn't involve breaking predictions.

It involves seeding your brain to predict differently.

It's my belief that the way in which emotions evolved was to deal with things like saber-toothed tigers,

the current incarnation of which is the car that's suddenly lurching at your car at a high speed.

You don't have time to think.

In split seconds, you have to do and make very complex decisions.

And if you had to think about what you were doing, you'd be dead.

It's a system that evolved to deal with really important things without your thinking about.

So that means that sometimes you're going to be very unconsidered, very thoughtless.

Well, these exercises that we're giving people, moving their facial muscles,

concentrating on the sensations to make them more aware of an emotion

when it arises so that they will feel it at the moment

and then can say did you really mean to ignore me?

No. It was just an accident or maybe I shouldn't jump to the conclusion that she doesn't care about me at all.

The way in which we can improve of our emotional life is to introduce conscious awareness.

Nature did not want you to do that.

So you have to do it yourself.

All relationships are colored with expectations about myself and about the other.

My expectations influence that which I then see or hear.

It is a filter as well as my mood.

That is one of the most important things to understand about relationships and communication

is how people actually co-create each other in the context of a relationship, because those people make part of who we are.

We will draw from them the very things which we expect from them, even when it's the opposite of what we really want.

A lot of emphasis is put on our ability to say certain things, to say them in the right way,

to articulate our needs, our feelings, our thoughts, our positions, our opinions.

What is lacking is the ability to see

that speaking is entirely dictated by the quality of the listening that is reflected back on us.

If I am talking to someone who is on their phone, I will be expressing myself and experiencing the communication completely different than

if I am speaking to someone who is looking at me in the eyes who says to me, I get it, I understand.

Not necessarily I agree, because ultimately, if I speak to you, and in the end, I live feeling even more alone,

I am literally in an existential crisis.

There is nothing worse than to be alone in the presence of another.

So when you listen to me, the first thing I need to know is that I have your attention.

The second thing I need to know is that maybe you can acknowledge the validity of my point of view.

And potentially you may even empathize with my point of view.

You can understand why I would think or feel or experience things the way I do.

That reflecting back, acknowledging, validating, empathizing.

That sequence is where the depth of communication takes place.

When you enter this world, you're not wired full of memories that your brain will use to predict.

Other people cultivate your world

and as a consequence they are wiring your brain full of experiences that your brain will then use to predict.

So as an adult you can make decisions about what you experience now.

You can make choices about how you act and those decisions

and choices either reinforce the predictions that your brain makes or it changes them.

Sometimes in life we are responsible for changing things not

because we're culpable or to blame for those things but because we're the only ones who can change them.

You always have tools available at your disposal to heal yourself,

to act differently, and to feel differently.

Phương Pháp Shadowing Là Gì?

Shadowing là kỹ thuật học ngôn ngữ có cơ sở khoa học, ban đầu được phát triển cho chương trình đào tạo phiên dịch viên chuyên nghiệp và được phổ biến rộng rãi bởi nhà đa ngôn ngữ học Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Nguyên lý cốt lõi đơn giản nhưng cực kỳ hiệu quả: bạn nghe tiếng Anh của người bản xứ và lặp lại to ngay lập tức — như một "cái bóng" (shadow) đuổi theo người nói với độ trễ chỉ 1–2 giây. Khác với luyện ngữ pháp hay học từ vựng bị động, Shadowing buộc não bộ và cơ miệng phải đồng thời xử lý và tái tạo ngôn ngữ thực tế. Các nghiên cứu khoa học xác nhận phương pháp này cải thiện đáng kể phát âm, ngữ điệu, nhịp điệu, nối âm, kỹ năng nghe và độ lưu loát khi nói — đặc biệt hiệu quả cho người luyện IELTS Speaking và muốn giao tiếp tiếng Anh tự nhiên như người bản ngữ.

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